There’s a very simple for all this
Holidays without my husband: What US immigration policy costs families
On any normal Thanksgiving, I would have made sure Nef had pecan pie after the big meal. It’s his favorite.
I know Nef loves pecan pie, but I also know he would be just as happy with blueberry or apple. It’s not the flavor that matters, it’s the small gesture of giving my thanks to him for his ability to find contentment and joy in the world.
That’s on any normal Thanksgiving. But this year was not normal.
Nef, short for Neftalí, is originally from Puebla, Mexico. After father died when he was a teenager, throwing the family further into poverty, Nef came to the United States to work and send money home to make sure his family had a chance at survival.
I met Nef in 2008 while he was working in Hell’s Kitchen. He was funny, full of bright light I couldn’t believe was real. All the qualities that, until recently, helped me survive difficult holidays and find hope in the midst of life’s challenges.
We married in 2017, mindful that his legal status was uncertain, but I thought I would be able to protect him legally or advocate for him if he was detained. In reality, I knew there may not be a fix at all in the U.S., even if we filed the right paperwork or “got in the right line.” After several exhausting years of spending money on expensive lawyers and filing fees, what I suspected was confirmed the hard way.
Yeah, and he’s illegally present in the U.S. in contradiction of the law. Things caught up with him, no matter what the family tried and which Democrat elected official they talked to.
This forced us to make a choice that no married couple should have to make: live with the everyday fear and danger of Nef getting caught up in this out-of-control system, or he could return to Mexico, where we could be forced to live apart for at least 10 years until he is allowed to apply for a green card again.
I could not live with myself if he were detained. We would have to take our chances living apart. On Oct 2., Nef left the home we built together, in the only country he has known as an adult and returned to Mexico. I went with him, relieved that he would be safer there with his family than here in the United States.
I returned to the U.S. in body, but my heart and mind linger somewhere in between. That’s why I skipped Thanksgiving this year, my first since we’ve been together, unable to face the holiday and all that it entails without Nef’s support.
She could have gone with, right? Oh, wait, Mexico has some seriously strict immigration laws.
It’s easier for people to understand the grief and loss I feel going into the holiday season, but it’s important to explain the anger I feel, as well. I am furious at what my country has done to me by taking away the one person who has been my safety net, who has been there for me over the past decade and a half in a way no one else has.
Not my problem. Not your problem. This is their problem, yet, she directs her anger at the U.S. But, isn’t willing to live in Mexico.
We text and video chat every day. I am flying to Mexico in the spring to see him and will continue to do so as often as I can afford. We hope that if enough Americans understand this problem and demand a solution, one day Nef and I can be reunited in our home here in New Jersey.
We understand that he intentionally broke U.S. law. So, this is on him. The sob stories no longer work.
Sob
Trump’s economy do bad it is costing his own supporters over the holidays.
Lol Trump also announced plans to begin building a new class of navy BATTLESHIPS!
MAKE America Great Again
And will name the thass TRUMP CLASS
REALLY, who can not agree with that? Bigger than WW 2 battle ships
FABULOUS!!
BIGGEST EVER!
I have a stepson that is anti Trump and he is always saying $hit like “Trust the science” and gets shots for whatever when they are available. His mom asked him how his 401 was doing and he was forced to admit it have been doing great recently.
The economy WAS bad. But now it is being repaired and growing. It will take time but within a year Americans’ will be so happy with the big beautiful results and cheering on the continued growth and enforcement of our laws. Seem somebody is making America great again!
Note that the sobbing wife told us that they tried to get him legal, including during the Biden years, and still couldn’t.
Maybe this was a guy we really didn’t want. Or perhaps, just perhaps, the Biden Administration was as lazy on legal immigration as it was on the illegals. Looks like Kamala Emhoff did as rotten a job on legal immigration as she did on the illegal stuff.
Riley Gaines Barker and her husband Louis, an immigrant from the United Kingdom and a scholarship athlete at the University of Kentucky, tried for years to get a green card for him; Mrs Barker is a natural born American citizen from [ughhh] Tennessee. The Biden Administration kept refusing to issue him a green card because he declined to take the experimental and ’emergency’ approved Covid vaccine.
Fortunately, with a new sheriff in town, he was recently approved for his green card.
Yikes! Another unvaccinated, germ-laden foreigner infecting America!
Ms Gaines, who is a “political activist” and MAGAt darling, couldn’t find an American to marry, so married a foreigner. Ms Gaines claims her christian* religion drives her activism.
Mr Gaines is currently the owner of LCB Construction, formerly known as LCB Pools.
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* What is the Bible’s position on the transgendered?
Why do secular anti-religious factions always try to cite a bible they don’t believe in?
As for the bible’s stance on transgender, my guess it was never recognized or mentioned. It’s a fairly modern society-endorsed mental illness. Pre-wokeness, I bet they just ostracized people that acted that crazy, or killed them if they presented a threat to their children.
But I don’t doubt the people that want to make it socially acceptable will re-interpret parts of the bible in favor of it. Even those that reject the bible for everything else.
BTW, “Another unvaccinated, germ-laden foreigner infecting America!” is probably quite true for those entering illegally across our borders from third world countries. Look at the increased incidences of unusual tropical diseases correlating with the massive influx of illegals across our southern border.
https://nypost.com/2023/04/18/bidens-open-borders-are-bringing-contagious-diseases-to-your-neighborhood/
It is because they think Christians are as illiterate as they are. They live in the world of sound bites, tweets, and endlessly repeating what someone else told them. They never read the Bible, but they think a Google search will provide a “gotcha” moment they can use against Christians.
Donnie Knauss and Pam Blondi continue to break the law by withholding Epstein files. No one is above the law! Except Don Knauss. Lock him up!!
Donnie K is a lifelong criminal and a convicted felon.
Did Melania Knauss and her parents receive favorable immigration treatment? Of course they did. Melania “modeled” (LOL) illegally. Deport them all to El Salvador CECOT!